New view of feminism, as I've perceived it in different thought leaders, lifts men up. It's about lifting yourself up, honoring all parts of you, liberating others to do the same.
When I get "loose eye balls" as my sister Helen Lee and I laughingly vented about in reference to a sermon she heard (I don't attend church but kudos to her pastor anyhow)...I think there comes a time in your relationship where someone compliments your significant other and you want to roll your eyeballs (Guilty! Especially after a disagreement). I think the point is not to be hard on ourselves but just to be aware of it as a natural tendency when it comes up. It's a socialized thing. I've seen it cross cultures.
I want to be a stopping point to that and apply my spiritual practice of self-transformation here. I realized how much I love when co-workers, friends, family members point something out stunning and characteristic of my man that makes me fall in love with those traits all over again. My heart swells with admiration and pride and it's worth acknowledging. The human tendency, I think, is to take it for granted like we do with, say PS3's. My man is not a PS3. (LOL) He was MY choice to begin with...so really...it's a pat on the back for me.
"[Tantra actually says that] the nature of the feminine, which can show up in men and women, is to be powerful, is to manifest, is to create, so it is in your nature to build hugely successful businesses, to be financially abundant, to create works of dance and music and works of art and literature that change the world, to be radiant and full, and bring yourself fully to life" -- Layla Martin
It's nice to observe that men no longer need to wait for beer + touch-downs for honest emotional expression (although I love the collective excitement)!
Layla Martin's video http://www.layla-martin.com/2014/3-tantric-gems-of-wisdom/,
How can changing your approach to life dramatically shift your personal happiness?
Layla Martin portrays "Three gems of Tantric Wisdom"can change the way you approach reality [this was key for me] and increase your level of happiness.
1) Self Love--
--Is a substance that fills you up from the inside out--that it is fundamental to being a POWERFUL human being...self love is actually the key to an empowered existence.
It's actually equivalent to the strength of your immune system...not just to stay healthy from disease or aging but it is actually an immunity against things like internal negativity, self-criticism, self-doubt, and other people's judgements of you...
Self love empowers you to live with a kind of POWER that makes you SPARKLE throughout your LIFE.
2) EVERY SINGLE PART of you is sacred (Cheers!)
That means there aren't some parts of you that are bad, or deserve to be punished, or are wrong in some way...And there aren't other parts of you that are good and acceptable and you should only try and be those parts.
Tantra says ALL of YOU, the WHOLE of YOUR HUMANITY, the WHOLE of WHAT YOU ARE is WORTHY of love, WORTHY of acceptance, and sacred--it's actually HOLY.
We as women are sensitive.
If you feel a part of you is not ok
If you played victim your entire life
If you feel disempowered about who you are
You're going to constantly be in an internal struggle
You're going to constantly feel like you need to fix yourself
Rather than allowing your talents
Rather than allowing yourself to LIVE YOUR LIFE AT FULL THROTTLE
And so the tantric approach to ALL of you being sacred,
actually gives you the POWER to EXPRESS WHO and WHAT YOU FULLY ARE in this lifetime
3). The Feminine, to be a woman is actually equivalent with universal power
So there can be this idea in our society
That a woman ought to be passive
You ought to wait for someone to ask you out
You ought to wait for life to come to you
Tantra actually says that the nature of the feminine, which can show up in men and women, is to be powerful, is to manifest, is to create, so it is in your nature to build hugely successful businesses, to be financially abundant, to create works of dance and music and works of art and literature that change the world, to be radiant and full, and bring yourself fully to life,
So how would your life be different if you didn't approach being a woman as something less than or small or that you need to get everyone else's needs met before yours but that one of the big pieces of a woman's nature is the MAKE SHIT HAPPEN.